Child adaptation to the arrival of a new person in the family takes some time, and it is entirely normal. Regardless of your child’s age, they do not have to quickly get used to a new nanny; if your child is hesitant, that is also normal. The main rule is not to rush!
What should parents consider during the adaptation period?
Before introducing the child to the nanny, be aware of your own emotions because any worries, anxiety, or feelings of guilt can be transmitted to your child.
Be sure to talk to your child about the changes. Discuss why Mom needs to go to work, what she will do there, and what the child will be doing during that time, and who will be with them. Share your feelings: “I really wish I could be with you, but it’s time for me to go back to work because…” or “I am, of course, worried about how you will be here without me, but I hope everything will be fine.”. It’s important to have these conversations with children of any age, even if you think they may not fully understand what you’re saying. Children pick up on your tone and emotions.
During the first week after the arrival of the new person, parents (at least one of them) should spend time with both the nanny and the child so that the child can see your positive interactions with the new person and feel that it’s a safe addition to their life.
It’s better not to sneak away or try to leave unnoticed. This can undermine child’s trust, and the child will feel deceived. Next time, they will try to be more prepared, not allowing themselves to be distracted, and they may cry. Clearly explain where you’re going and why. A calm farewell helps the child understand your departure and what you’ll be doing.
It’s wonderful if the nanny has a unique activity or game a child really loves that only she does with the child. That will be exclusively their thing, for example painting or creating with modeling clay. If the child asks you to paint or play with clay with them, you can respond with, “No, dear, that’s an activity with the nanny. She’ll be here soon, and you can do it with her.” This creates an expectation for the child regarding the favorite activity and supports emotional bonding with the nanny.
It’s essential for parents to provide the nanny with information about the child’s daily routine, habits, favorite toys the child sleeps with or takes walks with, favorite cup and other details to maintain stability and ease the adaptation process. This will help the child adapt to the new situation.
Children who are more change-resistant may need more time to adapt than those who are more outgoing. After a month, you will have the opportunity to assess how the child feels in the care of the new nanny.
Remember that no matter how challenging it may be to bring in a new caregiver for your children, hiring a nanny is an excellent way to help your children learn to build new relationships, improve their social skills, and facilitate their development.
Remember that no matter how challenging it may be to bring in a new caregiver for your children, hiring a nanny is an excellent way to help your children learn to build new relationships, improve their social skills, and facilitate their development.